God’s Words For Your New Year: Purposeful and Intentional

God’s Words For Your New Year: Purposeful and Intentional

2018 was full of blessings and lessons. We’re excited to see what these next 365 days have in store. One thing I know for certain is that God is in control.

Leah & I press into this reality daily, and while it takes a constant pursuit, the tangible results are a real, loving relationship with Him.

For me, that relationship serves as a mirror for how I am to love and serve my wife. Marriage is God’s covenant creation after all. I am thankful for this past year and the year to come, but I try to never overlook the individual moments in life.

Wonderful Woman

I captured this picture in one of those moments. Her unsuspecting expression was very Wonder Woman’ish, but she immediately discounted it.

Her humility sometimes prevents her from seeing how magnificent she truly is. But, she does know that she is a daughter of the King of Kings, and that’s more wonderful that any superhero character.

Words for Life

Two words God gave me for 2019 are Purposeful and Intentional. You may grow tired of hearing them, but I know they were meant for you too.

Even if it means allowing one heartbeat to pass before making a decision, or choosing not to decide, practicing these words of instruction will benefit us in this season.

Here’s to thanking you for being a part of our lives – God bless your 2019.

Scott Silverii

Dating Your Spouse: Blue Marriage

Dating Your Spouse: Blue Marriage:

Remember when you’d walk across glass to get a glimpse of your sweetie? What happened?

Okay, don’t ever forget what it was that drew you together. Now, do that more often.

Here are just a few of the benefits of being in Love

#1. Physical Changes – Love has physiological effects on your body. Chemical levels such as dopamine, testosterone, norepinephrine, histocompatibility complex (MHC), and Pheromones shift. These are all positive benefits. Dopamine is brain’s pleasure chemical Oxytocin is bonding/intimacy chemical.

Hugging and kissing important Testosterone is in both male and female, though higher in males. Ups your sex drive norepinephrine – A neurotransmitter is a chemical that is released from neurons. In the brain, norepinephrine increases arousal and alertness, promotes vigilance, enhances formation and retrieval of memory, and focuses attention

Major histocompatibility complex (MHC)-associated mate choice is thought to give offspring a fitness advantage through disease resistance.

#2. Perspective – Love shifts your self-centered worldview into a shared, or partner-focused lens. Learning to see the world through another person’s heart is a powerful experience.

It becomes a more transparent process as trust and love deepens. EX: Covenant marriage versus Contract marriage

#3. Fighting Clean – Single people fight for one thing; preservation for their way of life. Throw a monkey wrench in their machinery and they come out fighting like an angry cat mistakenly bathed by a toilet’s flush.

Love softens the heart for considering someone else’s point of view, and the potential for understanding that the world really doesn’t revolve around you. EX: Praying Together

#4. Sexier Sex – Intimacy and trust lead to increased sexual pleasure. While being single and ready to mingle might make for a great beer commercial campaign, the reality of lonely nights, untrustworthy partners, or revolving door relations eventually leads to sexual dissatisfaction.

Monogamy, trust, transparency stimulates intimacy which leads to the type of sex God designed for us – Marriage bed super sex.

#5. A Better You – Lets face it, when it’s only you that you have to please, becoming self-consumed is almost guaranteed. Without outside stimuli, rare is the occasion to grow or improve. Because it is God’s expressed will that two people should become one, it’s not only pleasing to Him, but immeasurably pleasing to you.


#A – LESS STRESS – married people have less dramatic responses to psychological stress.

#B – Richer – “married respondents experience per person net worth increases of 77 percent over single respondents.” Married people also gained significantly more wealth than divorced people.

#C – Safer – married people take fewer risks, including substance abuse, and live happier, with better health benefits.

#D – Survive – better cancer survival rate than single or divorced.

#E – LIFE LONGER – Living with a partner lowered the mortality rate for men by 80 percent and for women by 59 percent. Co-habitation actually reduces the lifespan.


Scott-Leah Silverii

Blue Marriage


Is Your Money Married, Or Still Dating?: Blue Marriage

Face It:

Big money = big problems, no money = no problems.

Okay, anyone who believes that, just stop reading right here. Money is by far one of the most fought over issues in relationships. Next, blend two individuals from independent socio-economic backgrounds, and you’ve got an epic blowout just waiting to occur.

Second marriages are already statistically set to fail. National averages show about 63% of next time arounds end in divorce. Other than the frantic rebounding relationships, kids and ex-spouses, money is a leading culprit.

Fair, Not Equal

You must think in terms of fair, and not equal when it comes to dealing with every situation that requires money. Will you mix your money, or maintain separate bank accounts? Unless there are binding legal contracts, wills, heirship, or annuities preventing the commingling of monies, God’s will for the union of two people entering into a heavenly covenant is for two to become one.

Genesis refers to becoming one flesh. It’s not a literal meshing of skin tissue, but of the very being of two beings. That includes your money.

For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

All In:

While you may prosper financially, or just get by with paying the bills with two separate accounts, you’re missing a spiritual blessing by not obeying God’s word to blend. If you chose to remarry, there can be no al la carte of blending. It’s not realistic to say I’ll blend the bedroom closet, but not your middle child. No, it’s all in.

When your money is just dating, it may have the tendency to venture out on its own expenditures, new people, or oppress your spouse. Chances are you earn different salaries.

The one who makes more, but only chips in to match their spouse on bills, mortgage, education, etc. rules over them according to God’s word. Relational inequity grinds against God’s grain. Remember the importance of Genesis: 2:24 – two shall become one.

The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.
~ Proverbs 22:7

White Elephants:

I’ll share that once Leah and I began to discuss marriage, the white elephant marched destructively around the room. I’d been a lifelong law enforcement officer. Even at my Chief of Police’s salary, her income as one of the world’s most successful authors was almost 20 times what I earned.

It wasn’t man-mind or alpha-ego, banging on my chest. It was reality.

I insisted we sign a prenuptial agreement. I had my pension and earned well, and I wanted to prove to her that I loved her as my wife, not as my supplemental retirement fund. Doing is one of my “love languages,” and I wanted to make a gesture.

She was insulted.

As a proud, independent man, God had placed a desire in me to care and provide for our blended family. That provision came in the form of man of the house, and not sugar daddy burning dollars.

Leah shared the theme from a Dave Ramsey course about being married, but your money still dating. It’s taken awhile, but I eventually began to share ownership of our family income as an equal partner in its stewardship. I’d like to share a few ways to marry your money.

I Now Invest You:

Combine all money accounts – except (a)
Work together on developing monthly budgets
Set financial priorities – include (b)
Consult each other before big purchases
Create realistic family financial goals
Discuss money with children – appropriately (c)
Skip the Pre-nups (d)
Remember there are two other biological parents with or without resources and expectations.

Remain flexible

Focus on what really matters – 1 Timothy 6:10 (e)
(a) Monies you may have invested, saved for your child’s education, elderly care for your parent(s), or other historical investment strategies earmarked for specific interests. For example: Expecting one parent to defund their child’s college savings account to pay for the new spouse’s child isn’t fair. It’ll only cause division among parents and siblings.

(b) If one spouse has a set retirement, yet the other one wasn’t able to dedicate money to a retirement account, make it a joint priority to get that spouse caught up. Look for other opportunities to establish monetary equity for each spouse.

(c) Blended kids may include one side being used to a level of financial freedoms, while the other side only knew budgets and inabilities to enjoy flexibility. Explaining the shifting financial priority will prepare one side, while assuring the other of fair expectations.

(d) Like I said earlier, unless there are extreme extenuating circumstances, don’t prioritize legal agreements on how to work it out in case the marriage fails. Go all in and commit to make the relationship last–cash and all.

(e) For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.

How Have You Blended Monies?

Blue Marriages Matter,

Scott & Leah Silverii

Marriage Matters Is Growing Again: Patreon Joins Platform

New Platform

We love to share the good word of a God-centered marriage. Patreon has emerged as a fantastic platform for sharing that word.

It allows for not only hosting our video content from the Marriage Matters.TV shows, but also makes converting them as podcasts as simple as hitting the upload button.

We think you’ll enjoy Patreon’s clean platform and the fact that it takes you out of the clutter of most social media streams; if just for a moment!

Stop by and check out the newest expansion for spreading the gospel of marriage and family. PLEASE make sure to click the FOLLOW tab for updates.

Lessons Learned

Our latest lesson learned is that this faith-based ministry incurs costs for bringing marriage and family resources to everyone. From software to soft-tipped microphones, it’s been a process of growth.

We’ve been led to trust our expenses will be covered by love offerings. While the majority of content at Patreon remains free for you, we also make it available to become a partner through monthly giving or one time gifts.

Chance To Bless

Admittedly, neither Leah nor I are good at receiving. We’d prefer to continue covering the costs out of pocket, but God has really been working on our hearts to show that while it’s wonderful to give as we love to do, it is also His desire that we learn to recieve.

Through this new platform at Patreon, and also at our Marriage Matters website, there are ways to bless our ministry in whatever makes you most comfortable. We do thank you and promise that every penny goes toward the strengthening of marriages and families.

Marriages Do Matter,

Scott & Leah

A Woman’s Fight For Forgiveness: Being A Godly Wife

Tide Turned

This is one of those blog posts that turned into a tough love segment somewhere along the way. Mostly tough love for me. I learned a lot while writing this post. Forgiveness was my ultimate lesson.

It’s incredible to look back on years as specific benchmarks in our lives. I was born in 1980, and accepted Christ in 1989. In 2001 I became a mom, and quit teaching to write full-time in 2011. Scott and I met in 2013. We married in 2015.

These were all years that impacted my life significantly.

2017 is one of those years. My life changed forever on January 1, 2017. There were moments in 2017 when I felt my spirit had been completely crushed to dust. Not broken pieces that could be put back together again. But DUST.


I heard Lysa TerKeurst speak at the Pink Impact conference a couple of months ago, and she said something that had a profound impact on me. Look what God did with dust in the bible. He breathed life into it and created man.

Dust is used to make clay. We are the clay and He is the potter. He also mixed dust with his spit to form mud and perform a miracle by rubbing it on the eyes of the blind man so he could see.

Her words gave me such hope in a season where I’d felt hopeless many times.

Before 2017, I was like the blind man who couldn’t see. I was a Christian. I’d accepted Christ in 1989 and was baptized shortly after. I was brought up in the church, and when my children were born I made sure they were brought up the same way.

But I was not living my life for Christ. I didn’t know what true faith was until 2017. I didn’t know the true impact of prayer until 2017. It changed my life forever.

I wouldn’t wish my 2017 on anyone, because 2017 has been unbelievably painful. It’s also been a season of restoration and incredible healing. If I had to go through all the pain of 2017 again to get to the point I’m at now, in my relationship with Christ and my relationship with my husband, I’d do it all over again. That’s how powerful our God is.

Doing It Different

Before Scott and I married, I thought long and hard about what I would do differently as a wife this time around. I was already once divorced, and the last thing I wanted was to be divorced again.

The conclusion I came to was that I needed to learn how to say I’m sorry and ask forgiveness, and I also needed to learn how to forgive others and not hold onto years of pain or strife.

The Lord definitely has a sense of humor, because He’s made sure I’ve gotten plenty of practice at both of my goals.

I will confess that prayer and my walk with Christ has humbled my spirit and I’m able to say I’m sorry easily and ask for forgiveness. But forgiving others has been more of a challenge, especially in this new season of my life.

No Strings

2017 has taught me how to forgive without strings and with grace. A mentor of mine and Scott’s did a great job illustrating how forgiveness works. As believers,

God wants us to have the capacity to forgive.

We need to forgive for ourselves, not for the offender. And I’m so grateful God forgives without strings and with unbelievable compassion and mercy. But because we forgive doesn’t mean the relationship has to be restored.

Sometimes forgiveness is closure and a hard-stopping place in the relationship. And that’s okay.

That was one of my big hang-ups about forgiveness. Sometimes people do irreparable damage. Forgive and release them. It’s truly easier than we make it.

In my personal dealings with forgiveness, I’ve found it’s much easier to forgive those you love, like your spouse or children. I know this from experience. But it’s not always easy to forgive those you don’t love. Or worse, those who have done an active disservice to you.

I’ll be honest, things haven’t always been smooth sailing for our marriage. The largest majority of rough waters we’ve experienced has been because of people outside of our marriage, whether it be friends, family, or exes.

Here’s A Secret

Let me tell you a secret that’s probably no secret at all. The closer you and your spouse walk with Christ, the less those who don’t will understand you. They’ll question you, they’ll ridicule you, and they’ll reject you. And sometimes, they’ll intentionally make trouble for you.

Satan LOVES that kind of discord, especially in a marriage.

Scott and I had a conversation the other day. It was a circumstance involving someone we have to deal with on a semi-regular basis who lives for discord. Someone who sees me as a threat to their position and is ready to draw battle lines by using foul language and gossiping untruths.

One of their favorite tools is the divide and conquer method. The “this is just between us, there’s no need for Leah to be involved” kind of conversation. Fortunately, I have a husband who doesn’t fall into that trap and doesn’t keep secrets, even about the bad things this person was saying about me.

“There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.”

Proverbs 6:16-19

Pruning For Growth

We’ve dealt with the same thing with certain family members. I wrote a blog post not long ago about pruning people from our lives who don’t add value. You can read it here.

And what we discovered is that we don’t miss the people we’ve pruned from our lives. We don’t think about them or talk about them. It was very obvious right away how little value they added to our lives.

I’m the kind of person who likes to please everyone. So it hurts when someone doesn’t like me or spews hateful gossip. Scott doesn’t have these issues. He usually gets really quiet and lets it all roll off. He likes to let people keep talking and gather information for later. It’s the cop in him.

Peacekeeper v. Peacemaker

But our same mentor once told me that I need to learn to be a peacemaker, not a peacekeeper. There’s a difference, and I’m slowly learning the difference, though sometimes old habits are hard to break.

My immediate worry after Scott relayed the conversation was over gossip and slander. After all, this other person made sure to let Scott know all of the things already being said about me, some by pruned family members, though all untrue.

In truth, these people we’ve pruned from our lives know very little about me or our family at all. But such is the nature of people who let hate and bitterness invade their lives, and who cloak themselves in phrases like, “All we can do is pray for them” while living in darkness.

Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?

2 Corinthians 6:14

Scott and I both live in the public eye, and though we share a lot of our lives with readers and followers, it’s a managed message and we share exactly what we want people to see.

We don’t invite drama into our lives and we keep our message positive. Always. But sometimes the protective walls we build are invaded anyway, by no fault of our own. It’s times like these that learning to forgive is essential.

Scott’s response to my reaction of this person’s comments was, “So what? What can we do to stop the words of other people?” As much as I hate to admit it, the answer to that is “Nothing”.

But that’s not what I wanted to hear. I…

  • wanted to be vindicated.
  • wanted to defend myself and have him defend me.
  • was tired of being the easy target.

My response was, “I’m not used to being talked bad about so brazenly.”

And then he replied, “You dealt with talk in your church when you got divorced. This should be nothing new.”

That’s true. There was talk when I was going through my divorce. But I realized at that point I handled the talk completely different. When I was going through my divorce I was working like a madwoman. I wasn’t there to hear secondhand gossip, defend myself, or do damage control. The kids and I were secluded at home in a protective bubble.

I literally walked away from the problem without a care, because I knew without a doubt that the only person who had a right to be in my business was God. I knew without a doubt that God was there to fight my battles if I let him. And I knew that I needed to become the woman God intended for me to be so I could move forward. I wasn’t that woman.

I’d lost sight of that somewhere with this latest incident. And I think it’s because we’ve been blasted with a lot of this lately, and most of it from people who we expected to know better.

Slimy Attacks

Scott and I knew when we started this blog and we shared our faith and the importance of our marriage that satan would start attacking from every direction and through any means necessary. We prayed about it and we’ve been prepared for it. And we weren’t wrong.

Since we’ve started this blog, our marriage has been under attack from every direction imaginable, whether it be career, financial, family, death, devastation, sin,or other outside influences. Satan’s attacks on Scott are different than mine. Satan knows our weaknesses.

It’s amazing how unresolved sin follows you, no matter how much you try to outrun it or forget it ever happened. It’s especially important in these matters to ask God for forgiveness, the offended for forgiveness, and learn to forgive yourself. That’s sometimes the hardest thing.

Since Scott and I met, I’ve dealt with an onslaught of attacks from various people–some who pretended to be friends, some from family, some from an ex, and some from women who wanted to be future Mrs. Silverii’s. They weren’t nice. And when they were nice it was even worse because there was usually a sharp blade behind their viper’s smile, ready to stab me in the back.


It was vicious at times, and many times I suffered in silence because Scott and I weren’t at a place in our relationship where we were communicating well. I was afraid to bring him my hurt. Many times I was blindsided with these people’s behavior. I wasn’t prepared for it. It’s not the environment I was raised in.

But all of these people had something in common. They’re users. They used Scott’s position as Chief of Police to serve themselves. His position allowed him to get things for them, do things for them, give them status because he was related in some way, or get them out of trouble.

His decision to retire didn’t set well with them, and he was no longer of use.

Then they saw me. I’ve worked like a dog for the success the Lord has granted me. I understand in a heartbeat that it could all go away tomorrow. I understand how blessed we are, and that we have an obligation to be good stewards. This is God’s money. Not ours.

These same users saw, and still see me, as a way to have an easy payday. They’d want to work for me and collect a paycheck without actually working, they’d brazenly ask Scott for favors or money because they were broke, and then take vacations.

Just Say No

When we finally started saying “no,” they’d lash out and say it must be nice to be on perpetual vacation all the time, thinking that the hundred hour work weeks we put in and the hundred days of business travel per year, where I’ll sign books for eight hours straight, give all day workshops until my voice is hoarse, and be so booked up at conferences that I have to change clothes as I’m running from event to event (without eating all day) was just part of the glamorous life we were leading.

These things still happen. And frankly, I’m kind of tired of it. I’ve dealt with a lot of anger in 2017. But dealing with the anger is part of the process of forgiving. Anger is not a sin as long as you don’t sin in your anger. I’ve been angry with Scott, but when he asked for forgiveness and was truly repentant, I was able to forgive.

But I held onto the anger I had for these other people. My good friend Chermaine told me to say the words of forgiveness out loud, even if I didn’t mean them. God would work on my heart and soften it.

So that’s what I did. For some of these people, I was able to speak forgiveness, mean it, and put a hard stopping place in our relationship. For others, it took months and months of speaking the words aloud before I was finally able to forgive.

Forgiveness is for our sake. Not for the sake of the offender.

Forgiving and releasing these people from my life brought a peace I haven’t felt since the beginning of our marriage. But we’ve decided with Christ at the center, we can withstand any storm together.

Withstanding The Storm

2017 has been a storm. And we’ve withstood it with the help of some incredible men and women of God. Praise the Lord for those people!

Just because we forgive doesn’t mean there won’t still be bumps in the road caused by the offender. Remember, satan loves discord.

And he’ll use those people if an opening is available in your armor for their spears to pierce. This is sometimes especially difficult in a blended family or if satan is using an ex for repeated discord.

This latest incident, where an unknown war was raged upon me, is not the last, I’m sure. But here’s the thing; this person is fighting a war and I’m not even part of the battle. I don’t care. They can’t touch me. Because God has reformed me from the dust I’d become in January of 2017. My armor is strong. But my God is stronger.

These recent incidents have only reemphasized the choices we’ve made in our marriage up to this point. God moved us to Texas for a reason. There was also a reason we were led to Gateway Church and the ministries they have there. God had a plan for us, and He still has plans for us that we can’t even see on the horizon.

Enjoying The Blessings

2017 has been a blessing.

A couple of weeks ago someone thought to give their opinion of how we do things in our marriage. From everything from our personal finances, to the decisions we make in our marriage, estate, and our children.

Scott has always been very vocal about our priorities, and he talks about it quite a bit on his Brick Breakers site for men.

The priorities are this:

  • God

“Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.”

Deuteronomy 6:5

  • Marriage

“For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church.”

Ephesians 5:22-23

“For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.”

Ephesians 5:25-26

  • Children (all of them have equal standing, even though we’re a blended family)

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6

There are other priorities in our marriage: We tithe 10% of our income no matter what it is each month, we don’t keep secrets from each other, we make decisions as equal partners (ranging from finances to children, even though we’re a blended family-we treat everything and everyone as ours).

(Side Note:)  The above statement is very important. The word ours is a big deal, especially in a blended family where lines are easily drawn.

We always stand beside each other, above all others. But those things are easy to do when God comes before anything else in our lives, and our marriage comes before our children.

Yes, our marriage comes before our children.

2017 has been a year of forgiveness, restoration in some cases, and letting go in others. There will continue to be those who strive for discord, but God is fighting those battles. All we have to do is give up the control and let him take the sword.

Be blessed,

Leah Silverii


5 Dangers In Marriage Money Management

5 Dangers In Marriage Money Management






When God’s Will Conflicts With Facebook Algorithms

Several months back I undertook an overhaul of our Facebook presence atMarriage Matters. Trying to tap into that perfect stream of increased engagement while maintaining the vision placed on our hearts was a challenge.

But what wasn’t a challenge is giving you a free gift. It saved our marriage and millions of others. Don’t worry, it’s waiting for you at the end of this piece. God bless you!


Sure, we could follow the traditional social media models by boosting posts, paying for ads and hawking new likes like a nightclub sidewalk caller. But, we’ve committed to doing SMATGW (social media according to God’s will.) No need to Google it, I just made that up. But we really did say we’d do only as He led us to do.

Now, God’s got nothing against digging into the insights section of our Marriage Matters’ page, so I hunkered down and accessed every bit of data I could gain short of applying for a FISA warrant (too soon?)

It showed me the best times to post were in the evenings when our friends were most active. Next, the data drilled into the types of posts that gained the most engagement and traction. Finally, it showed us that resorting to the traditional models for social media growth would be more productive in growing our presence.

It’s a Funny Thing

Even before I started my quest for uncovering the secrets locked within our Facebook account, God began sharing a word with us. He wanted us to begin going live on Marriage Matters to share the secrets of His word.

Once I worked out the technology needed to pre-schedule shows, insert slides, images and other video capture devices into the course of a live broadcast, we were ready to roll. Then God got very specific in His word. He wanted us to go live three times each week, and here’s the kicker, at 6:30.

Oh, that’s 6:30 in the AM!!!!

You see the funny thing, we’re night owls who work until about 3 or 4 in the morning while it’s quiet and no one is texting, emailing or calling. Peaceful, silent solitude. So surely, God was kidding when He said that. I mean really, go live at 6:30 in the morning? Who does that?

Giving God A Hand

We’ve been guilty of trying to give God a hand at having His will get done. Impatience has been one thing we’ve worked on and have mostly begun to wait on the Lord. The 16th chapter of Genesis became very profound during this period. God promised Sarah and Abraham a child, but after 10 years, they were still empty nesters.

Sarah decided to help God out by giving her servant, Hagar to Abraham to conceive a child and therefore allow God to save face by delivering that promised child to her husband. Well, that didn’t really work out too well.

So here we are a few thousand years later and guess what?

We figured God had to be kidding about the early morning time slot. Besides, I’d just completed an in-depth analytical analysis of our Facebook data. The earliest optimal time to post anything was at and after 5:00pm. So we decided to compromise.

We shot, recorded and edited three great episodes. Complete with intro, outro, title screens and subtitles. I loaded them up on Marriage Matters and scheduled one each for Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 6:30AM.

BAM, my work was done.

Second Chances

That first Monday, I woke up around 10:00am, anxious to see the show’s reach, comments, likes, loves and shares. I washed my face and slipped on my readers so I could soak it all in. I was ready to spend the morning responding to the overload of questions and comments.

You know the outcome, right? There was one like and it was Leah, who had tagged it while I was washing my face. I thought it was because it was the first show. It would catch on by Friday. The Wednesday and Friday shows aired as scheduled, but with even worse results.

It had to have been because God’s will conflicted with the Facebook algorithm. I knew the crack of dawn wasn’t the right time. I became hurt and resentful over the weekend. How could we have invested all of that time and effort into the very material God led us to share, only to have it fade into the nothingness that it arrived in.

Sarah, Hagar and Abraham were placed on my heart, and I knew what God was showing me. I was disobedient, even in a desire to “help,” I failed to follow SMATGW because I decided to:

  1. Lean on my own understanding (Facebook data)
  2. Impose my will (Sleep way past 6:30am)
  3. Prideful look (Airing an edited version instead of raw and live.)

In God’s mercy, He showed me that although the trio were all complicit in failing to wait upon His promise, that they were still blessed and God’s promise was fulfilled. Hagar’s son Ishmael became the start of a great nation,, Sarah’s son, Isaac led the tribes of Israel to rise as promised and Abraham is the father of many generations.

Despite our human frailty, God gives grace and blessings. But, what about the live show?

In Our Obedience

By the next Monday, God had shown me it had nothing to do with social media presence or increased engagement. It wasn’t even about sharing His word on marriage. God wanted my servant, sacrificial heart to step out on faith and do as He asked me to do.

He didn’t need an earful of data and best social media practices. It was simply a question of was I willing to sacrifice for His will. Was I willing to sacrifice “me” time to dedicate to preparing the script, verses and slides the night before, and be ready to air at 6:30am?

I was so sorry that weekend and felt ashamed for trying to help Him out, when the lesson He wanted to share with His son wasn’t about the way, but only about His will.

Prime Time

I’ll tell you that it’s not always a halo and a choir of angels trumpeting onto do God’s will. That Monday, we drug each other out of bed while trying to steal naps in between brushing teeth, turning on lights and setting up what we like to call, “The Studio.”

With puffy eyes and no idea if the technology would work, we hit the “Start Streaming” button and BAM, we were live.It didn’t matter that we’d only had 2 hours of sleep, or that no one commented or even viewed the show. We were in God’s will.

We repeated that sleepy, sluggish scenario again on Wednesday and then Friday. We’ve done this the last 3 weeks, and while our work and family schedules don’t allow us to go to bed much earlier, we’re still thankful to be in His will. We smack the alarms a few times, hug while praying and then get to work with SMATGW.

I’d love to tell you in less than a month, our live morning Facebook show has gone viral and changed millions of lives. We can’t, not yet, but what we can share is the friends who join us in the morning are a blessing to us and the emails about how they love watching while getting ready for their day has blessed them.

Witness Rewards

The greatest reward for our early morning prime-time special is the love we share with each other while promoting a God-centered marriage covenant model. Leah and I have grown so close since we began, and although we were close before, this opportunity has drawn us into a deeper understanding of God’s word and will.

There is sometimes a fear or hesitation in sharing your testimony in public. No, our marriage wasn’t perfect and it almost ended before it began, but we rolled up our sleeves and went to work. We flat refused to quit on each other, but that required we give each other up to God. He made the changes in us that saved us.

So, while I still do enjoy digging into data, we’re going to stick to the SMATGW approach. We pray you’ll decide to join us in our prime-time slot, but take heart. If you’re not a morning bird either, you can catch every episode at your convenience.

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Scott & Leah Silverii

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